Crappy Friends and Dignity
This weekend was everything I thought it'd be. Massages were relaxing, time with friends was so fun and my niece was such a good girl.
On a different subject, for those of you familiar with my very flaky friend, I decided to contact her a few weeks ago. I sent her a message via Facebook, stating how I wish I got an explanation to her standing me up. Long story short, she gave me a BS excuse, or no excuse whatsoever, and said she didn't know why she did what she did. We talked a little and I vented some, feeling satisfied with getting an apology and voicing my feelings. In my mind everything was over. I got my explanation and apology, and had so many other things to worry about. Then she contacted me saying she'd be in town for Easter weekend and wanted to meet up. I contemplated this and decided I have nothing to lose by making plans to meet up with her. We're not really friends now and my pride is pretty much nonexistent. So what if she stands me up again? It's not the end of the world. My plans are to meet up with her after work with Natalie tomorrow and have a late lunch/early dinner. I know it's going to be awkward. We were from two completely different worlds when we were friends and I can only imagine how much has changed in the years spent apart. Our friendship is ruined and there really is no getting it back. I don't know what I hope to accomplish by seeing her but at the very least it may make an interesting blog post.
Anyway, here are some cheerful pictures from this weekend to make you less depressed from reading this! Enjoy.
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Oh girl, I don't know if I'd do the same as you. I have a flaky friend who I've known for YEARS...she only comes around or calls when it's convenient for HER. And then, God forbid, you do something without her (that she thinks she should be included in...aka my wedding) you never hear the end of it!
I didn't ask her to be my bridesmaid for the same reason I don't have a great friendship with her...FLAKE-tastic! Now I never hear the end of it.."I had so much fun being your bridesmaid...oh wait..no I didn't!"...or "I didn't even get invited to your shower or Bach party! I have known you the LONGEST!"...
uh..I can't even. SOOOOO..good luck with your friend. ...if I should even say friend. Your life is awesome and you have TONS to be proud of...go out and make her jealous! :) anddddd then post all about it..
Sounds like one of my "friends" could be your flaky friends twin. We were best friends since 4th grade, and then one day she "un-friended" me on facebook without a reason or explanation. I'm totally over and have moved on, even though she wants to rekindle the relationship. I've broken pretty much all contact with her. I'm not making someone a priority in my life if it seems like I am only an option in theirs. It sucks to lose friends, though.
Oh jeez. I had this happen with a friend after my first baby as well. Stood me up, contacted for a visit and never followed through, got mad at me when I couldn't come to one of her parties, then she had a baby and wanted to be friends again? So strange. Haven't heard from her in almost a year now :/
Oh girl! I hope at the least this can just give you some closure. You are such a sweet kind person, & she doesn't deserve a friend like you. though I do believe in 2nd chances... but I'm sure she's had a few of those) Ya never know, people can change? I'm starting to ramble on now... I do that a lot) I really hope everything goes well mama!
Btw, holy crap-O-LA... those pics are cute! LOVE the last shot bunches!
Wishing you & your beautiful fam a wondeful Easter!! XS
It's good that you guys had a chance to talk about things and that you let it all out so she knew how you felt. I would be weary of her, though.
I hope she at least has the decency to show up this time. I don't blame you for making the plans though. Sometimes it's hard to completely cut out someone you were once close with.
Don't we all have at least one friend like that though? Sad but true. Anyway...let us know how it goes. Hopefully she shows up. Cute pictures! Have a great Easter weekend! Thanks for being awesome!
I find it quite challenging/inspiring that you've given this flaky friend a second chance. I usually let people like that drift away. It's definitely given me something to think about.
Ugh. I hope your friend shows up and behaves herself this time! I agree with Steph, I think everybody has a "friend" like that. :S
I hope she showed up! I have a "friend" like that too! I love the pictures on an unrelated note. I hope you had a fabulous Easter weekend!
So curious to hear the follow up to your dinner, I really hope it went well and at the very least she was honest. Your baby is just getting cuter, isn't it crazy how you think you can't possibly love them more, and then you do!
psssssssst...I nominated you for an award :)
Crappy friends are the worst! Hopefully things go decently well when you meet up with her! :-(
♥ Kyna
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