Random Topic Tuesday

So it's been a long time since I've posted a Random Topic Tuesday and I've missed telling complete strangers stupid facts about my life and opinions that you may or may not be interested in reading.  So without further ado, please welcome back Random Topic Tuesday! (Until I get too lazy to post them or run out of ideas!)



Today's topic: a time a friend let you down

It takes a lot for me to consider someone my friend. Even when I refer to them as so, it probably just means an acquaintance or someone I know and don't know what else to refer to them as. That being said, I used to have an absolute best friend back in the day. We went to boarding school together and were roommates for a couple years there. When we left boarding school we promised to keep in touch and we did. She lived in Florida, me in Virginia, but we occasionally visited each other anyway.

Over time our friendship lost it's luster and we grew apart. We talked less and less. One day she contacted me letting me know she was going to be in the area and wanted to meet up. She also let me know she was going to be moving in a few weeks to Australia. I thought I would get her a going away gift even though she was only going to be gone ten months. I decided on something sentimental. The night before we were to meet up I got her a gift (I won't say what it was since it was pretty cheesy) and wrote her a sappy note on a blank card about how much her friendship meant to me.

The next day came and I hadn't heard from her. I called her with no answer. I waited some more. Called again. Left a message. I got a little pissed off but at the same time I was worried about her. The next day came and still no word. She wouldn't flat out just ditch me. Something had to be amiss. I called again. Then I saw she had updated her Facebook page. It was clear she was perfectly okay.

 I sent her a message. I didn't say anything like, "Are you okay?" or "What happened?" I went straight into my feelings and demanded an explanation. She replied back and what she said made no sense. She asked for my address and said she wanted to send me a letter explaining herself. I had no idea what the fuck she was talking about but I gave it to her anyway and waited for the postman.

No letter ever came. I got engaged, married, pregnant and had a baby. She missed out on all of that and had no idea what was going on in my life. Even in the midst of all the excitement going on, I still thought about her from time to time. I don't know if it was because I was bitter and wanted her to know how happy I was even without her companionship, or if  it was because I missed her and wanted her to be a part of it all but either way it doesn't matter. She wasn't there and I don't know why.


It was a big let down, but her loss.