28 February 2012

Random Topic Tuesday

So it's been a long time since I've posted a Random Topic Tuesday and I've missed telling complete strangers stupid facts about my life and opinions that you may or may not be interested in reading.  So without further ado, please welcome back Random Topic Tuesday! (Until I get too lazy to post them or run out of ideas!)

Today's topic: a time a friend let you down

It takes a lot for me to consider someone my friend. Even when I refer to them as so, it probably just means an acquaintance or someone I know and don't know what else to refer to them as. That being said, I used to have an absolute best friend back in the day. We went to boarding school together and were roommates for a couple years there. When we left boarding school we promised to keep in touch and we did. She lived in Florida, me in Virginia, but we occasionally visited each other anyway.

Over time our friendship lost it's luster and we grew apart. We talked less and less. One day she contacted me letting me know she was going to be in the area and wanted to meet up. She also let me know she was going to be moving in a few weeks to Australia. I thought I would get her a going away gift even though she was only going to be gone ten months. I decided on something sentimental. The night before we were to meet up I got her a gift (I won't say what it was since it was pretty cheesy) and wrote her a sappy note on a blank card about how much her friendship meant to me.

The next day came and I hadn't heard from her. I called her with no answer. I waited some more. Called again. Left a message. I got a little pissed off but at the same time I was worried about her. The next day came and still no word. She wouldn't flat out just ditch me. Something had to be amiss. I called again. Then I saw she had updated her Facebook page. It was clear she was perfectly okay.

 I sent her a message. I didn't say anything like, "Are you okay?" or "What happened?" I went straight into my feelings and demanded an explanation. She replied back and what she said made no sense. She asked for my address and said she wanted to send me a letter explaining herself. I had no idea what the fuck she was talking about but I gave it to her anyway and waited for the postman.

No letter ever came. I got engaged, married, pregnant and had a baby. She missed out on all of that and had no idea what was going on in my life. Even in the midst of all the excitement going on, I still thought about her from time to time. I don't know if it was because I was bitter and wanted her to know how happy I was even without her companionship, or if  it was because I missed her and wanted her to be a part of it all but either way it doesn't matter. She wasn't there and I don't know why.

It was a big let down, but her loss.

13 Thoughts :

Life Happens February 28, 2012 at 4:34 PM  

This reminded me of a quote I saw on pinterest..."Sometimes ou have give up on people, not because you don't care, but because they don't."

Your friend is the one missing out. And I hope everything in her life is okay, but she certainly missed out on sharing it with a great friend.

BTW, Where in VA do you live? I tried to respond to your comments on my blog, but you are a 'no-replyer'.

Kristin February 28, 2012 at 4:46 PM  

That is really sad that people can be like that. So selfish! I have had a few friends along the way that have done similar things to me. :(

Jazz February 28, 2012 at 5:25 PM  

Urgh, how awful! Why even do that? People like her make me so annoyed with life, feels like such a waste of time knowing them when they end it like that. Maybe one day you'll get an explanation:)

Ashley February 28, 2012 at 5:40 PM  

I am so sorry! I have been through a somewhat similar situation with someone who I thought was a great friend. She distanced herself from me and I tried and tried and finally gave up. I know I am better off without her but it still hurt because I never really got an explanation as to why.

kyna... February 28, 2012 at 6:36 PM  

I have had one friend who continually lets me down! It's annoying and hurtful all at the same time!
♥ Kyna

Marjorie February 28, 2012 at 7:40 PM  

weird. now i dying to know what happened to her!

Melanie February 28, 2012 at 9:38 PM  

This makes me super sad. I have a story very similar to this too. I am sorry this, girl apparently lost her marbles along the way. Her loss FO sure mama!

Amanda @ New Adventures February 28, 2012 at 10:45 PM  

Definitely her loss! Friendships with girls can be one of the trickiest things- girls are so complicated :) Hope by the time Natalie is in school a miracle happened and girls are nice to each other!

marie February 29, 2012 at 12:59 AM  

Oh this makes me sad. I haven't gone through this exact scenario but I know exactly how you are feeling. Even when someone disappoints you, if you care about them, it hurts. You want them to explain, to care, to do something!

Plus the curiosity in you probably drives you crazy. I bet the reality is she was probably just trying to buy herself time with the whole 'letter' thing. Most likely she's just somewhat self centered and thoughtless.

Krista February 29, 2012 at 1:00 PM  

How sad. I had a friend that just let the friendship go. I haven't talked to her in about 15 years but still think about her. Weird how that happens huh?

Megan February 29, 2012 at 10:19 PM  

Sadly this happens too much. I'm sorry she was a shitty friend. Maybe she'll find your blog and see how amazing your life is. :)

There are people in my life that I think about sometimes. I think it's because we miss what we thought we had with them, but then there are people you can go years without talking to and begin where you left off.

Holly March 3, 2012 at 2:49 AM  

Wow, that's really awful. I'm sorry that happened to you. I would have been really upset too, but you're definitely better off without somebody like that in your life. :/

Tami March 3, 2012 at 11:39 AM  

They say if you are lucky you will have one true friend in a life time. In my case I have found that to be very true! I bet your one true friend lives with you now ? Great story so glad you shared! Xo Tami:)