15 April 2011

The Countdown to Complete Insanity Begins (Six Weeks Left)

Beneath the happy in love girl with a casual manner I feel stressed to the core about if I’ve done this whole thing right. I feel like I rushed into some of the decisions I made just to get it out of the way and feel like I procrastinated on others and then was not left with many options. It's true that I am getting more and more anxious about the wedding as it is all too quickly approaching-yet feels like it will be forever until it will be over.

My main uneasiness is stemming from the moments I know will be filled with nothing but awkwardness: walking down the aisle, cake cutting and the very dreaded first dance. So I turned to the internet for help. Not for advice on how to ease my nerves but on alternatives to the traditional  motions of a wedding. I really didn't find a lot of information. I haven't made up mind entirely about walking down the aisle (or not so much walking down it) but this is where all my angst lies.

I know I will probably not walk down with my father. I have thought about this and I know I may regret it. I've never been a "daddy's girl" though and just feel like it would be weird for me to be "given" away. I understand why people do it, it's just not for me. I've heard of the bride and groom walking down together and this sounds like a good plan. I feel most comfortable and relaxed with my fiance by my side.  As far as a first dance goes there is absolutely no avoiding this. We are having dancing at the wedding and eventually will have to get on the floor and that will technically be our first dance together. However, I think it would be nice to just have a first dance for all the couples along with us. (Because I don't want anyone to feel left out- really.)

I know some people can't fathom leaving out the usual customs and I am surprisingly worried about what other people may think of this, especially his family. I don't want anyone to be disappointed or feel they missed out on an essential part of our wedding but at the same time it is OUR wedding and I want to be happy and comfortable. I just can't bring myself to take center stage and prosper under the attention some brides very much look forward to.

10 Thoughts :

Jessica April 15, 2011 at 8:10 PM  

I think you have to do whatever you feel comfortable with and in the end, you'll be happiest with!

The Whity Wife April 16, 2011 at 7:45 AM  

as for the dancing, my hubby won't do it. so, our alternative, we did about 30 seconds of us dancing, then the old couples joined, then progressively younger, until all people were on the dance floor! This really got the party started too! (As most people stayed out)

my advice, walk down the isle, do it at a normal walking pace (it's not long), and do it alone or with whomever you feel raised you (maybe both of your parents). Walking to your FI will help ease the walk, trust me! (seeing him, and knowing he is your goal will wash away everything else!)

Rose April 16, 2011 at 12:21 PM  

Just like you said, keep in mind that it is YOUR wedding. Do what makes you comfortable and happy, your wedding day is all about you and your groom :) It's 2011, non-traditional is more common nowadays, so don't stress too much about it. I love the idea of all the couples dancing for the first dance! ♥

Tanya (a Taste of T) April 19, 2011 at 8:30 AM  

Ah it'll be GREAT!

Michelle April 20, 2011 at 10:01 AM  

Coming from another bride-to-be, I could not agree with you more about the whole first dance thing! My fiance and I are not big "everyone look at us while we dance by ourselves and you awkwardly watch us" kind of people. We are both still debating about how to handle that. I always forget that this is *our* wedding and whatever we decide is up to us! I love that that is what you and your guy are doing! I'm so glad I found your blog. I look forward to reading about your upcoming wedding and your wedding plans and decisions! Have a good day!

Anonymous April 20, 2011 at 1:25 PM  

it is your wedding, you do what you want!!! looove the blog!

Holly April 25, 2011 at 12:29 AM  

I agree with everyone else who has said that you should do whatever you want to do. :)

Married In Chicago April 25, 2011 at 8:01 PM  

Awe, I love the idea of walking each other down the aisle. Do what you are most comfortable with - because in the end you are going to have to live with it!

Kelly April 27, 2011 at 8:42 PM  

This, combined with the "My Philosophy" is so refreshing. Weddings are about commitment to your partner, about making it a legal contract. It is not about the tablecloths or the seating chart, or who knows what else. It is so nice to hear that you're excited about the RIGHT parts of a wedding - marriage. You do the things that you are comfortable with, and don't worry what other people will think: they can get their own wedding.

Anonymous May 15, 2011 at 10:30 PM  

It's your day, do it however you want. My hubs and I had a completely untraditional wedding. But at the end of the day I was married to the man I love and nothing else mattered. Glad you found my blog, yours is super cute. Can't wait to read more as the wedding keeps getting closer!