01 May 2012

Anti Pink

After I had Natalie, I was in Target shopping for some baby necessities. While in the infant aisle I was holding a pair of pink scratch mittens and a pregnant woman walked by. I don't know if she said the following sentence because she saw what I was holding or not but I felt like it was a personal attack. "Ugh, I'm so glad I'm having a boy. I can't stand all this pink." What. A. Cunt. It took everything in me to not start sobbing right then and there. Maybe I was reading too far into it, maybe my hormones were just out of whack, but it still hurt and felt like she was bad mouthing me and my brand new baby.

 Soon after that incident I came across a blog entry addressing inappropriate outfits made for little girls. While I agreed completely with the author, I was horrified by the comments left by other readers. One user said she was glad she had only boys because of how skanky her daughter would want to dress as a tween. Someone else said she contemplated not having another child out of fear of having a girl. These comments broke my heart and infuriated me at the same time.

I can't believe people say shit like this. Who thinks like that? Who rejoices in the gender of their baby based on wardrobe choices? I find that really sad and shallow.

20 Thoughts :

Cam May 1, 2012 at 8:46 PM  

Ugh! I hear things like that all the time since I have two girls. What are people thinking? I LOVE having girls, and although I would love to have a boy one day, I'd be perfectly fine with having all girls. Whatever. People are stupid.

Laura May 1, 2012 at 9:23 PM  

Litt girls are great! That sounds like poor parents to me! Love the header, not sure how new it is, sorry if I haven't been paying attention!

Amy May 1, 2012 at 10:04 PM  

I may regret saying this someday, but I would have another girl 100x over if I could, not because they are better, prettier, smarter, or dresser, but because of the special bond that we share. Isn't that what motherhood is all about? Motherhood knows no gender!

Married...with a Pup May 1, 2012 at 10:11 PM  

Oh my! Having not had kids yet, I seriously had no idea women said things like this!!!!!! Do they not realize that they themselves are women and are badmouthing their own gender?!?! Carazy!

Danielle-Marie May 1, 2012 at 10:37 PM  

Ignore narrow minded people like that. They don't deserve your energy.

AEG May 1, 2012 at 10:37 PM  

You've got to be kidding! I'm not having kids for a few years but I would love a girl (although I'd be happy with either). It's your kid you can dress them however you want and gender should not influence that.

Kate @ Daffodils May 1, 2012 at 11:35 PM  

I think it is up to a parent to dress their child the way they seem fit, not to regret a child's gender because of wardrobe! Crazy!

Kristin May 2, 2012 at 12:58 AM  

UGH that just goes on the list of stupid crap stupid people say! I had someone say almost that exact thing to me about HATING pink and glad they were having a boy. WTF

Ali May 2, 2012 at 1:29 AM  

Agreed. But honestly something that bugs me is two pieces for babies! Why?! And how impractical! Not saying it is never cute because I'm sure it can be!! But people are so rude and take their opinions much too far sometimes. And that girl in target is for sure a big ole cunt!

Melanie May 2, 2012 at 5:34 AM  

Reason # 2348-1a why I love the crap out of ya girlfriend! UGGGG! What BIATCHES man. Yah know what... if I am ever lucky enough to have a sweet little girl... I am going to smother her in every shade of pink there is! Then when she gets old enough to pick what she want's to wear... she cam wear whatever colors she wants... AND she will not be dressing like a ho bag... why cause I'm the mama!

Mean people seriously suck dude.... they are just sad people who didn't get enough love somewhere along the way. Kill em w/ kindness girlfriend... OR punch a biatch OUT! XOXO

Megan May 2, 2012 at 8:30 AM  

I love my three girls and all their pink-ness. And to that woman that said they will wanna dress like a skank when they are in their tweens...they'll only wanna dress like that if you teach and raise them that it's ok to dress that way.

I've had some rude comments, not like that...but people ask me all the time when I was pregnant with Kinsley if I wished she was a boy. If I wanted a boy instead of a girl. Or another favorite comment, "Ohh man...another girl??? Geez. Your poor husband."

Emily May 2, 2012 at 9:03 AM  

I have three boys and would love to have a girl. You simply have to help them make the right choices on what to wear. How sad that people think that way.

Krista May 2, 2012 at 9:15 AM  

Oh my! I can't believe people are saying these things! Sometimes I do wish I had a little girl when I walk past the girl's clothes at Target but I don't seriously wish I could trade in my boys for girls. They are precious little beings regardless of there gender.

I do think there are a lot of mothers that let their young girls wear inappropriate clothes but to me that is the fault of the parent, not the child, and certainly not the gender...sheesh!

marie May 2, 2012 at 9:24 AM  

Maybe it's a coping mechanism, because they really wanted a girl and they're trying to convince themselves it's for the better that they're having a boy. Not sure the reason but those comments are completely inappropriate.

I have a tween and with our religion we have very high dress standards and guess what people it can be done. We're the parents after all and we say what goes. Remember? Parents can do that!

Shannon May 2, 2012 at 9:38 AM  

You know who says shit like that? People who are jealous that they don't have beautiful baby girls.

Natalie trumps all their kids. I know. It's a fact.

Shannon May 2, 2012 at 9:46 AM  

That's disgusting. Should people with that closed of a mind be HAVING kids??? Surely their "preferences" will rub off on their kids, and that's unfortunate for the rest of society :(

Stephanie May 2, 2012 at 11:27 AM  

Oh my word, when I was pregnant with out daughter I heard similar comments and I just wanted to FREAK OUT. There are challenges with any gender, but I highly doubt people who say these things would say them if they were actually HAVING a girl. Terrible. I'm sorry you had to hear such nasty things during such a vulnerable time...people are so stupid sometimes.

Jessica May 2, 2012 at 3:37 PM  

After I pick my jaw up off the floor!!! -- I will say that my sis has a girl and I have a boy and it's tough to buy for EITHER. Besides that... people need to shut their pie holes and not be RUDE!

Nessa May 3, 2012 at 9:29 PM  

Wow that makes me really sad. I love the pink, I love my girl, and if she decides to dress skanky later in life, I will die a little inside but I'll still love her too.

Holly May 4, 2012 at 4:53 AM  

Wow! That woman definitely was pretty rude! I would have been upset/pissed too. :S