31 January 2012

Observations

Today was another unseasonably warm day and after I had my very eager father in law watch Natalie while I got my hair done, her and I took a little walk. She fell asleep as soon as I started walking so I figured my lazy ass would just sit on a bench in the park and creepily watch the kids there play for 45 minutes. As I was observing, I started thinking about how intimidating the playground actually is. It's just a melting pot of social awkwardness. All the women there are either foreign nannies or extremely judgmental looking white women wearing designer sunglasses and drinking Starbucks. It appears as though they have their little cliques where they probably stand around bragging about their kids achievements and try to outdo each other in every aspect of parenting. For all I know they could be really nice and I know I'm the one being judgmental here. It's just that they're a lot older than me (looking like I'm 12 years old doesn't help) and I'm worried once our kids do interact that they'll look down on me. Some older moms feel like younger moms should have waited to be more financially settled or "lived" a little more and therefore frown upon them. I know it seems a bit ridiculous to be so worried about things that haven't even happened and may not happen but I can't help it. Whatever. I know I made the right decisions in life. I know I'm just as responsible and fit to be a mother as them, despite my age. I don't feel like I'm missing out on a thing, except maybe a good friend with children to accompany me to the park and give dirty looks to snotty people.

12 Thoughts :

Melanie January 31, 2012 at 5:35 PM  

Hahaaa... sorry girl, I don't mean to laugh... but I SO know what ya mean! Mama, I wish we lived down the street from eachother, cause I would happily be your park side kick! That lil angel is too sweet! Xoxo

Caiti January 31, 2012 at 5:39 PM  

I wrote about this too a little bit. It seems like moms are so busy judging other moms. No matter where you fall on the spectrum. Working. SAHM. 40. 20. All anyone wants to do is judge. So annoying. Don't let it get you down! You're awesome. I have young parents. My dad used to walk down the driveway on his hands and do cartwheels to amuse us. I don't see someone's 40 year old behind doing that...Just saying! There are pros and cons on both ends. But that is a memory I cherish.

marie January 31, 2012 at 5:41 PM  

I am so glad I recovered from my horrible shyness, now I always initiate conversation, moms can always find somethings in common.

You'd be surprised at how open moms can really be (especially if you tell them how adorable their kid is), and how much you can learn from each other.

If you don't want to reveal your age just tack on 10 years. But then they'll think you look so good they'll really hate you.

Lesley @ the floyd boys January 31, 2012 at 6:16 PM  

I love being a young mom. But I do look 16 with two kids, and I know I'm judged right away. I even had a lady come up to me telling me everything would be okay, and that she was a teen mom too. I was 22 at the time and planned my son after 2.5 years of marriage haha.

Venassa January 31, 2012 at 6:36 PM  

I totally see where you're coming from. I always feel weird around other moms, like they all know what they're doing and they look down on me but that's probably not the case.

Kristin January 31, 2012 at 7:13 PM  

I feel like most moms look older than me too and don't talk to me. I am 30 but look way younger. Oh well who cares about snotty moms at the playground. You will eventually find your way to fun mom groups like I have!

Amanda @ New Adventures January 31, 2012 at 10:52 PM  

Hope you find a fun mom group who can go with you and laugh at the snotty mom's on the playground :)

Holly January 31, 2012 at 11:23 PM  

I hate being in situations like that, it definitely is super awkward!
I hope you find some younger mum friends to hang out with eventually. :)

Megan February 1, 2012 at 7:56 AM  

I wrote about this awhile ago. My oldest is 5, so I was 20 when I had her. She goes to a church preschool which is only part-time so everyone there is a sahm. These moms are all way older than me, drive brand new minivans and etc. So I feel totally out of place. She was invited to a birthday party at a country club. Really??

I once was at the mall in the play area and I had all three kids with me. Someone said do you mind if I ask how old you are. I said 25. She said oh, I thought we had teen mom going on over here. So what if we did? It wasn't any of her business!

Oh well. I've given up on trying to fit in. I figure when my youngest is 5, I'll be 30-31, then I'll fit in with those moms.

Shannon February 1, 2012 at 10:32 AM  

I'll bring my dog up to your park and let her shit on the playground, that way, all those snotty moms will hate me, instead of you! :)

NeuroticLover February 1, 2012 at 12:24 PM  

I feel you on this, completely! I was eighteen when I got pregnant, and usually (because I refuse to put make up on to take the little one to the park) look about 16, so I always feel like I'm being judged when going out with my girl. Even taking her to preschool can feel awkward, I'm pretty sure I'm like the youngest mom there.

Lafs February 16, 2012 at 7:07 AM  

I know how that feels. When Dailan was in elementary school all the other snobby country club moms stared down there nose at me because I didn't look like them. Most of them thought I was his nanny! It's better to stand out from the crowd I think.