18 March 2011

This Might Be Why People Call Me Bitter

A generally agreed upon belief is that if you don't trust the person you're with then you shouldn't marry them. An even more popular belief is that a man should have a stripper at his bachelor party. People like to combine the disbelief of a bride not wanting her groom to have a stripper at his bachelor party as the woman not trusting her man. Not only is the concept of ogling another woman while she takes her clothes off the night before your wedding wrong and disrespectful to your fiancee, but to objectify yourself as a piece of ass and take your clothes off for money is sad and degrading. To get to that point in life means you probably made some bad choices. Maybe things were your fault, maybe it was the hand you were dealt. Maybe you once were in love with someone who hurt you and this is your way of retaliating. Maybe your parents weren't there. Maybe you're a single parent with no financial help.I cannot judge you completely and categorize you as someone who is shallow and emotionally empty (that's exactly what I'm implying) but chances may be that self respect isn't at the top of your priority list and you would rather sacrifice dignity for a little bit of cash. I know I can be more modest with my views on some subjects but in no way am I prude or overly conservative. I am speaking very generally about the moral sentiments of society that I feel are not up for debate. Respect should always come first and foremost. I know it's traditional for some people to act out in in an alcohol induced frenzy on their final night as a "single" soul. I have no issues with drinking and having a good time (read: closet alcoholic) but the expectation that your last night out with friends is some sort of license to do as you please is all wrong. It's a shame how dishonorable people become when the bar for proper behavior is lowered by such a great deal. It's also a shame what little respect some have for themselves. Again, this is in no way related to my personal relationship or personal life. Just personal opinions and insights.

3 Thoughts :

NeuroticLover March 19, 2011 at 4:25 AM  

I have to say, I totally agree with you. Its never made any sense to me. Also, disrespectful to your fiancée. And that goes both ways, I don't get strippers at bachelorette parties either.

Samantha March 21, 2011 at 9:39 AM  

Love this! Your honesty is so refreshing!

Anonymous May 15, 2011 at 4:17 AM  

i know you didn't intend to be hurtful. and i share your views about not wanting my fiance to get a stripper before we get married... it's an outdated tradition i think.

but remember that not all strippers are people who made bad decisions to get there, or are morally sacrified, or degenerate in any way. some women end up there out of really unfortunate circumstances placed on them.

so in a way, you saying you don't want a stripper for your fiance (and justifying it at least partially because that stripper or stripping in general is amoral) really justifies the stereotype of the untrusting woman you're trying not to embody. just food for thought.